these are things that I could not tell you;
things that remind me of you when I want nothing more than to forget;
things that have gone wrong;
things that have gone right;
things that will never happen;
things that are your fault,
my fault,
the faults of no one;
these are things that we did not do and will not let go of
seen from a great enough distance i cannot be seen
i feel this as an extremely distinct sensation
of feeling like shit; the effect of small children
is that they use declarative sentences and then look at your face
with an expression that says, ‘you will never do enough
for the people you love’; i can feel the universe expanding
and it feels like no one is trying hard enough
the effect of this is an extremely shitty sensation
of being the only person alive; i have been alone for a very long time
it will take an extreme person to make me feel less alone
the effect of being alone for a very long time
is that i have been thinking very hard and learning about existence, mortality
loneliness, people, society, and love; i am afraid
that i am not learning fast enough; i can feel the universe expanding
and it feels like no one has ever tried hard enough; when i cried in your room
it was the effect of an extremely distinct sensation that ‘i am the only person
alive,’ ‘i have not learned enough,’ and ‘i can feel the universe
expanding and making things further apart
and it feels like a declarative sentence
whose message is that we must try harder’
Every night before I sleep, I reach out because some part of me believes that you’ll magically appear by my side. You always did like mystical things like that. Your feelings were also good at vanishing acts.
I like the parts of you
that are not the parts of me,
the furry paws of your knees
and the angular metal of your upper arm.
So often I turn to touch softness
and find taut rope and hard glass.
My body stretches elastic
to meet and hold forum
with the hollow of your back.
I crawl under your thrown face
and find moist refuge.
In such moments
I forget your bones and fingernails.
I surrender to the mud that moves with us,
sinking and rising
in the steam that is our common element.
She entered my foot with her foot
and she entered my waist with her snow.
She entered my heart saying,
“Yes, that’s right.”
And so the Body of Loneliness
was covered from without,
and from within
the Body of Loneliness was embraced.
Now every time I try to draw a breath
she whispers to my breathlessness,
“Yes, my love, that’s right, that’s right.”
Don’t you know that love isn’t just going to bed? Love isn’t an act, it’s a whole life. It’s staying with her now because she needs you; it’s knowing you and she will still care about each other when sex and daydreams, fights and futures — when all that’s on the shelf and done with. Love — why, I’ll tell you what love is: it’s you at seventy-five and her at seventy-one, each of you listening for the other’s step in the next room, each afraid that a sudden silence, a sudden cry, could mean a lifetime’s talk is over.
This is me being ridiculous and corny and nerdy and making a sort-of-valentine for my not-boyfriend (who I REALLY hope doesn’t read this blog [eta: OH GOD it’s the first result if you search for my username. HI EVERYONE]). I really like the ’50s and ’50s slang and “swell” became a part of my vocabulary with the first Matt (I really need to stop with the repeating names, don’t I?) and just sort of stuck and well, I do think this guy is swell and there’s a certain feeling I associate with that word and I get it and oh god this could go so terribly for me but anyway the waves are of course by Cassy because when do I ever use art from anyone else I mean really now.
If I love you, one of them cried out,
what would you give up?
There were others before you,
I wanted to say, and you’d be the one
before someone else. Everything, I said.
There are rocks deep enough in this earth that no matter what the rupture, they will never see the surface. There is, I think, a fear of love There is a fear of love.
— Let the Great World Spin, Colum McCann
as Jenna would say: “It’s like a huge fucking OOF all at once, right?” (yep, that’s a direct quote; before this I didn’t know that anyone else said “oof” because people always got confused when I did).
Laura’s posting about this inspired me to actually get my rear in gear and finish it before I start anything else.